So done with dating
I just do not want to do it anymore.
I hate the whole concept of dating - the idea that I am supposed to meet a complete stranger for a romantic outing when we don't even know each other?
Isn't that a little backwards?
Isn't that too much pressure?
I am just not into it.
Personally, I think we should be going on dates with people we are ALREADY in a relationship with. So, if I ever have a boyfriend again... I'll go on a date with him.
Until then, I am DONE.
From now on, I will only accept Not Dates from strangers.
If it is a Not Date we can just HANG OUT and do a fun activity without expectations. We can just enjoy a moment with another human being on planet earth.
Read my blog and/or my book? Wanna meet me? Okay, I'll meet you for a Not Date.
Wanna take a walk and get some exercise? Talk about interesting topics? Sure, I'm down. I like meeting new people.
If it turns out that we actually both like each other, sure, THEN I'll go on a date with you.
But I'll probably want to go on a few more Not Dates first.
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What do you think? Are you tired of dating strangers? Tell me in the comments!
Well stated...
ReplyDeleteThank you Nashville!
DeleteNot sure I ever considered that a first date needed to be romantic, more along the lines of a "not first date" and if it went well? then a romantic date.
ReplyDeleteThe word "date" alone implies romance or the possibility of romance. So, the point is, I don't want to do something that implies romance with a stranger. Too much pressure.
DeleteI just found your blog on a guy's Facebook page of "likes" as Im learning about him, haven't met him in person yet, he lives an hour away. I like your posts!! Ive been single for 12 years, never married, have a 13 yr old son. I really agree with this post. I tell guys I meet them as friends, not dating, to see if I want to date them, girlfriends agree with me, my guy friend (only a friend) doesn't think so. Ive had many 1st dates, just 1 boyfriend for 2 months, which ended 4 yrs ago. It'd be nice to email you. Can I do that?
DeleteIm new to this site and I don't know how to put my name on the top. Im Bridget in Michigan. Its good to relate about having standards and being a single woman! What is your email address?
DeleteI wrote the 2 comments above, I cant put my name in as Bridget. Well those are mine.
DeleteThis is Michael. I agree with you. Dating strangers is more awkward nowadays. Why not just hang out and then see where things might lead to?
ReplyDeleteHi Michael! Yes, exactly!
DeleteI’ve actually tried that. It does / did take away a lot of the pressure. So, how many women who are on dating sites would be offended if a guy suggested a none-date? I could easily understand if the suggestion came across as “oh great he doesn’t think I’m that attractive”. I could be mistaken, but I believe women (not all) still like, want a guy to express romantic interest in them up front. I mean the process of going on a first date is stressful enough that a lot of women opt out. It is my belief that the idea of a man expressesing romantic interest is the motivation needed to actually put in the effort of going out on the date.
ReplyDeleteDennis Arndt, you pose a very valid question. I had not considered that angle. I think the way the gentleman proposes will determine the outcome. If he explains that he would love to meet up for a Not Date as a way to avoid pressure but demonstrates his thoughtfulness by suggesting a date/time/location, he should be okay. I am not sure what you mean by "express romantic interest up front" but clarifying expectations is always good and fair for each party to do.
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ReplyDeleteThe American concept of dating has undergone several transformations. I can't speak for the people in the 1950s because that's not my era, but there was a romantic innocence compared to the stressful times we live today. I guess now dating is more stressful because everybody has social media accounts and a great deal of people have let their narcissistic tendencies get the best of them. It seems we all need to take a selfie wherever we go.
ReplyDeleteAs for the not date, that's a sharp and straightforward idea. To me (I grew up in South America), dating should be about getting to know someone you might or might not want to hug and/or kiss down the road. The romantic patina is necessary but there shouldn't be any expectations as to "best date" or "best date partner." Going out on a date also involves the possibility of rejection (for men and women). In my more frequent dating years, I put a serious effort in making the date a fun and enjoyable one, even if we chose not to go out again, or even if the woman was not my type.
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