Are you a good friend? Do you reach out to your friends? Do you check in with them? Do you keep up to date on the things going on in their lives? Do you reciprocate invitations? Are you thoughtful? Do you prioritize relationships? Do you extend yourself to people? Are you inclusive? When you know someone is going through a hard time, do you tell them to call you? Or do you reach out and call them? Do you know how valuable your friendship is? How reaching out to someone can completely change their mood? Their day? Their week? Has a friend ever done this for you? Have you ever felt down and lonely and then suddenly received a message and thought, wow, so-and-so was thinking of me - I matter?

A few years ago I didn't think I was a good enough friend. I didn't think that I was thoughtful enough. So I made it my New Year's resolution. That was three New Year's ago, before "eating more charcuterie" and "eating more burgers and pizza." I think that was a very good resolution. I took it seriously and I worked on it. It was a conscious decision and choice. It takes time and effort and energy to be a good friend. I think that I am a good friend now, though I still think I could be more thoughtful. And when it is reciprocated? When people reach out to me and are interested in my life and supportive of me? I don't know what brings a bigger smile to my face.

What is better than human affection? What is a better priority than letting the people you like know that you like them? Or that you love them? That you care about them?

Now, let me think. Who do I need to check in with?


  1. Many years ago I heard a saying, "Be the kind of friend you'd want to have.". I wish I could remember where it came from, but regardless it made an impression on me when it heard it. Not just the, "oh that's a good idea." kind of impression, but more of a epiphany of something I knew I would spend the rest of my life striving to do. We have two families in this life; the one we are born with, and the one we make. I am sure everyone has at least that one friend they really just think of as family. If you are lucky its more than one. But regardless, to get the most out of both, I think it is about what you put in as much as you get out. Sorry if this comment comes a bit after your post, lol, I just found you...

    1. Hi Greg. Please don't apologize for your lovely comment. Thank you for taking the time to write it! I am glad you found me! Keep the comments coming! xo


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