So done with dating



I just do not want to do it anymore.

I hate the whole concept of dating - the idea that I am supposed to meet a complete stranger for a romantic outing when we don't even know each other?

Isn't that a little backwards?

Isn't that too much pressure?

I am just not into it.

Personally, I think we should be going on dates with people we are ALREADY in a relationship with. So, if I ever have a boyfriend again... I'll go on a date with him.

Until then, I am DONE.

From now on, I will only accept Not Dates from strangers.

If it is a Not Date we can just HANG OUT and do a fun activity without expectations. We can just enjoy a moment with another human being on planet earth.

Read my blog and/or my book? Wanna meet me? Okay, I'll meet you for a Not Date.

Wanna take a walk and get some exercise? Talk about interesting topics? Sure, I'm down. I like meeting new people.

If it turns out that we actually both like each other, sure, THEN I'll go on a date with you.

But I'll probably want to go on a few more Not Dates first.

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  1. Not sure I ever considered that a first date needed to be romantic, more along the lines of a "not first date" and if it went well? then a romantic date.

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    1. The word "date" alone implies romance or the possibility of romance. So, the point is, I don't want to do something that implies romance with a stranger. Too much pressure.

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  2. This is Michael. I agree with you. Dating strangers is more awkward nowadays. Why not just hang out and then see where things might lead to?

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  3. I’ve actually tried that. It does / did take away a lot of the pressure. So, how many women who are on dating sites would be offended if a guy suggested a none-date? I could easily understand if the suggestion came across as “oh great he doesn’t think I’m that attractive”. I could be mistaken, but I believe women (not all) still like, want a guy to express romantic interest in them up front. I mean the process of going on a first date is stressful enough that a lot of women opt out. It is my belief that the idea of a man expressesing romantic interest is the motivation needed to actually put in the effort of going out on the date.

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    1. Dennis Arndt, you pose a very valid question. I had not considered that angle. I think the way the gentleman proposes will determine the outcome. If he explains that he would love to meet up for a Not Date as a way to avoid pressure but demonstrates his thoughtfulness by suggesting a date/time/location, he should be okay. I am not sure what you mean by "express romantic interest up front" but clarifying expectations is always good and fair for each party to do.

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